Male vs. Female Cats: Which Is Right for You?
When choosing a new kitten, one question comes up all the time:
Should I get a male or a female?
Some people swear male cats are more affectionate. Others say females are more independent. But after years of raising Sphynx, Devon Rex, and Lykoi kittens, we’ve learned something important.
Personality matters far more than gender.
There can be some general differences between males and females. But every kitten is an individual.
If you’re searching for Sphynx kittens, Devon Rex kittens, Lykoi kittens, or reputable cat breeders in Tennessee, here’s what you should know before choosing a boy or girl.
Personality Matters More Than Gender
A kitten’s personality comes from much more than being male or female.
Genetics, early experiences, socialization, and environment all play a role.
This is one reason our Royal Velvet kittens stay with us until approximately 14–16 weeks old. Those extra weeks give us time to watch their personalities develop.
We learn who is fearless. Who is cuddly. Who wants to be involved in everything. And who would rather sit back and watch the chaos unfold.
Our kittens also have more time to learn important social skills before leaving for their new homes.
You can read more about our socialization and go-home age here.
Male vs. Female Sphynx Cats
Sphynx cats are known for being affectionate, social, and very involved with their people.
They aren’t exactly known for respecting personal space. 😂
Male Sphynx
In our experience, males can be goofy, outgoing, and very people-oriented.
Many love following their people around the house. They may greet visitors, climb into laps, and insist on being included in whatever you’re doing.
If you’re hoping for a silly little shadow, a male Sphynx may be a great fit.
Female Sphynx
Female Sphynx can be every bit as loving.
We sometimes find that females are a little more selective about how and when they want attention. Some bond especially closely with their favorite person.
Think less “I love everyone!” and a little more “Yes, you may worship me now.” 👑
Of course, we’ve raised females who were complete Velcro cats and males who were more independent. There are always exceptions.
Male vs. Female Devon Rex Cats
The Devon Rex is playful, intelligent, curious, and usually determined to be involved in everything.
They’re basically little pixies with questionable decision-making skills.
Male Devon Rex
Male Devons can be playful, adventurous, and wonderfully silly.
Many keep that kitten-like personality well into adulthood. They often enjoy other pets and can do very well in busy households.
Female Devon Rex
Our female Devons can be incredibly smart and expressive.
They often know exactly what they want—and aren’t shy about telling you.
Some may be a little more observant or particular than the boys. Others are every bit as wild and goofy.
Again, individual personality wins..
Male vs. Female Lykoi Cats
The Lykoi may look wild, but their personalities can be incredibly sweet.
They are curious, intelligent cats with strong hunting and play instincts.
Male Lykoi
Male Lykois can be bold and adventurous.
They often want to investigate anything new and can turn just about anything into a toy.
Many are social and physically affectionate once they’re comfortable.
Female Lykoi
Females can be a little more observant at first.
They may watch what’s happening before deciding whether they want to participate.
Once they form a bond, though, they can be extremely loyal and affectionate.
Does Size Differ Between Males and Females?
Generally, yes.
Males tend to grow larger and have a heavier build. Females are usually somewhat smaller and more petite.
But genetics also play a big role in adult size.
What About Spraying and Heat Cycles?
This is one difference our Royal Velvet families don’t need to worry much about.
Our kittens go home already spayed or neutered.
Spaying and neutering removes many hormone-driven behaviors associated with intact adult cats, including heat cycles and much of the territorial behavior associated with intact males.
That means you can focus much more on the kitten’s actual personality.
How Royal Velvet Helps You Choose
We don’t believe families should choose a kitten based on gender alone.
By the time our kittens are ready to leave, we’ve spent months with them.
We know the troublemaker.
We know the lap baby.
We know the kitten who wants to supervise everything.
And we definitely know the one who acts completely innocent after starting all the trouble. 😂
That knowledge helps us guide our families toward a kitten that fits their household.
Do you have children? Other cats? Dogs? Are you looking for an outgoing kitten or something a little calmer?
Those things matter more to us than simply saying, “You need a boy” or “You need a girl.”
You can learn more about our Priority List and upcoming litters here.
So, Should You Choose a Male or Female?
If you already have your heart set on a boy or girl, that’s perfectly fine.
But don’t overlook an amazing kitten simply because of gender.
We’ve seen cuddly girls, independent boys, wild little princesses, laid-back gentlemen, and just about everything in between.
Choose the personality that fits your family.
Sometimes the kitten you never expected to choose ends up being exactly the one you needed.
If you’re still deciding between breeds, read our guide to Sphynx vs. Devon Rex vs. Lykoi.
You can also visit our Royal Velvets kittens page to see our current and upcoming litters.
